Proverbs - Sons and Wives

Proverbs 19:13

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

Two things that can really discourage a man are a foolish son and a contentious wife.  A foolish son is one that makes choices contrary to wisdom.  A father may find himself being faced with calamity by his son’s choices.  The son may drink and drive and now the father must hire lawyers, pay hospital bills or grieve over the death of his son or those he injured.  The son may be slothful and a lazy worker and the father may be faced with bills he may or may not be responsible for legally.  As moms, we must teach our children wisdom if we desire to bless our husbands.  We must teach them to be diligent in their work, clean up after themselves, redeem the time, turn in work on time, have self control in relationships and other areas that will train them in the way they should go.  If we don’t take the time with them when they are younger and they end up being foolish later, we could cause calamity in our husbands’ lives.  As our sons grow older, and we have done our part, we can rest that we did was right in the Lord’s eyes regardless of our sons’ adult choices.  If we see our sons being foolish, be sensitive to the troubled spirit our husbands might have.  Don’t be contentious about the situation.  Love and respect your husband.  Don’t resist his delimiters or consequences he may have for your son.  Support him in his leadership and resist the mother/son dynamic that often makes us melt.  He doesn’t need a contentious wife on top of a foolish son.