Proverbs - Help Him Be Ravished

Proverbs 5:14-23

Help Your Husband Be Ravished With Your Love  

 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.

 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.

 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe;

let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman,

and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD,

and he pondereth all his goings.

His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself,

and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.

He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

Marriage is so special.  The Lord wants a man and woman to experience a level of commitment that reflects His commitment to us - His bride.  He wants marriages to be full of refreshment, nourishment, safety and contentment.  We, as women, can look at these verses and see that we need to be available to our husbands at all times for his satisfaction.  We, as wives, should be described as loving and pleasant.  Have you made your husband the highest human priority as far as helping him and seeking to satisfy him?

Pray that your husband will always be ravished with your love.  The word ‘ravished’ can be translated ‘intoxicated’.  Does your love fill your husband and cause him to be anaesthetized against the cruel, destructive arrows of his adversary?  Something that can intoxicate someone has had time to ferment and change in chemical make up.  It started out as fruit but with time was able to have power over someone’s state of mind.  In your marriage, is the fruit of the Holy Spirit remaining and with time your love is influencing your husband in a way that helps him avoid the traps of the enemy - especially those lustful traps he faces on a daily basis?

            

Proverbs - Respect Begins at Home

Proverbs 31:23

Her husband is known in the gates,

when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

This husband has the mind to judge matters for the city.  He is respected and people come to him to make decisions.  The virtuous woman gives him the respect that is due his position.  When a man is respected and listened to at home, he gains the identity of one who is to be respected and listened to outside the home.  Ladies, when was the last time you asked your husband for his advice, took it and went back and affirmed him in it?  When was the last time you gave his advice to someone else and gave him credit for it?  If we want our husbands to grow in their ability to make good decisions, let us reverence them and follow their lead.  We are created to do them good.  We will contribute to their character as we listen to them and give them the respect God tells us to give them.  Then, they will be known by others as one who is to be respected. 

Proverbs - Wake UP!

Proverbs 31:15

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household,

 and a portion to her maidens.

A lot of women cringe at this verse at first sight.  They hate waking up early.  There can be seasons where this might not be as necessary given your work schedule, responsibilities or health, but oftentimes it is quite the good thing if you have a family that starts their day early.  It is a good thing to rise up before the rest of the house, whenever that is, and make sure that our family is waking up to a smile and good food.  Our husbands and children can wake up to love and care.  They can smell the bacon or see the cereal set up for them and start their day feeling loved and taken care of.  Ladies, we are not called to be served but to serve.  What a privilege!  Maybe you can set the table or get some muffin mix mixed up the night before.  You can be praying for them before the alarm wakes them up and you can set the tone of the day.  Be honest and consider if you might not be fulfilling this part of the ministry to which you are called.  Wake up!  You might even hear His lovingkindness in the morning before you hear the babies, husband and children’s voices!

Proverbs - Doing Him Good

Proverbs 31:12

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

                                                                                         Doing Him Good           

We need to not just avoid doing evil to our husbands but seek to do him good every day of our lives.  This means when we are tired or cranky or when we are up and strong.  What a great way to start our day!  We could ask the Lord, “What could I do that is good towards my husband today?”  Does he like the bed made as soon as you wake up?  Does he love a good, hot meal when he gets home?  What is his favorite snack?  Do you have it on hand?  Are his sexual desires being met with joy and willingness?  Has he heard you give him a compliment lately?  Can you run an errand from his list?  Let us do them good and not evil ALL the days of our lives. 

Proverbs - His Heart is Safe

Proverbs 31:11

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,

so that he shall have no need of spoil.

A man’s heart should be able to trust in his wife.  He shouldn’t fear being ridiculed, mocked or deceived.  If he opens up to her he shouldn’t fear these inner struggles will be used against him at a later time.  He shouldn’t fear that she is spending money without his knowledge and he should have a confidence she is seeking to be prudent and cautious with their money.  Does your husband’s heart safely trust in you?  If not, you can rebuild this trust.  Take time to affirm his dreams and visions.  Take note of his weaknesses and cover them in prayer.   Never use these against him.